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nky4stars
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Posted: 12/8/2006 4:57:00 AM

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RE: INGREDIENTS TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
If you're not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples, and reflect on it.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."
Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individuals who have decided to share a life together. Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best of each other?.

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control?
What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship. Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on their voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests.

Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.

"Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think." The grass withers, the flowers fades, but the word of God stands forever. Isaiah 40:8, Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight.
Always to try to be a little kinder than is necessary. The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the i.
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.


heart heart heart heart heart

omo_ketu
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Posted: 12/8/2006 5:32:00 AM

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RE: INGREDIENTS TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
Preach sister Preach

iyabo
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Posted: 12/8/2006 6:29:00 AM

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RE: INGREDIENTS TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
I hate it when a guy starts talking about his past relationships, and I hate it when people want you
to talk about an ex.

An ex is an X for a reason.
Carrying excess baggage into a new relationship is
dangerous. tomorrow sef dem go use am against you.

I have one piece of advice ..if you have children
from a past relationship Never be tempted to be abusive
about him/her. Because the new partner will think hmmm
this is what you are capable of.




sandygurl
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Posted: 12/8/2006 7:28:00 AM

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RE: INGREDIENTS TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
oky lets start cooking Wink

nky4stars
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Posted: 12/8/2006 7:37:00 AM

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RE: INGREDIENTS TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
@iyabo, you right.

nky4stars
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Posted: 12/8/2006 7:40:00 AM

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RE: INGREDIENTS TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
dat is the reason why u shud shine ur eye in things like that so that one dont regrets at last.

@sandygurl, abeg na wetin you wan start the cook? thinking thinking thinkingyou dey funny

ebak
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Posted: 12/8/2006 7:41:00 AM

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RE: INGREDIENTS TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
Iyabode,
I no gree. Me I go insist say make you give me all the grisly details. (no be as de guy de shag you..o) If you talk lie, I go know, because your tory no go just flow. Suppose say na "kop no mi" (love potion) wey scatter una nko? I cannot put anything beyond a woman.

Me sef I go yarn you wetin make me and the wench pack up. Abi no be so?

iyabo
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Posted: 12/8/2006 7:53:00 AM

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RE: INGREDIENTS TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
Bros.. ennn fine if its someone you will be with long term
But shey you know there are those who dey pretend when really all they want is to find out stuff about u.
The had no intention in the first place of being with u

sandygurl
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Posted: 12/8/2006 8:29:00 AM

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RE: INGREDIENTS TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
nky wettin u self dey talk...topic says ingredients to a successful relationship...so make i go cook now so wit this ingredients i can make a successful relationship...abi no be so?

ebak
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Posted: 12/8/2006 8:46:00 AM

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Lady Iyabo,
I agree with you absolutely, especially these waz-up guys. Gentlemen like us are very very few. Wink Angel

iyabo
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Posted: 12/8/2006 9:18:00 AM

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ebak yes o na very few genuine people dey around.
Thank God My 30 na Gentleman
He no be like all those area boys whey dem dey
pack dem selves for cbyercafe.

londonfinest
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Posted: 12/8/2006 9:48:00 AM

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Easy said and done...........

The moment you got hit by the love arrow, the so-called "shine ur eye" won't even come to place and all the warning won't stick even thought you know you have to be careful.

But ....haaaaa am tired will continue later

yooto
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Posted: 12/8/2006 9:59:00 AM

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RE: INGREDIENTS TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
well marriage is still a confusing thing.

londonfinest
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Posted: 12/8/2006 10:03:00 AM

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gbabeeee

iyabo
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Posted: 12/8/2006 10:07:00 AM

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RE: INGREDIENTS TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
marriage is not easy neither are relationships where people live together as man and wife.
That's why they say na trial and error, give and take.
Marriage is not a bed of roses. It has to be worked on daily.

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