Theory on cheating
I was having this conversation with a male friend of mine, and relating a story of how an ex- boyfriend of mine cheated on me with a certain girl, and I broke up with him (actually for other reasons
...before all of una come jump my head and say I for stay, try change am
And he dated the girl he cheated with, for less than two weeks before he dumped her. Which at the time, I thought was quite funny.
Yes, anyway, so when I was telling this story to my friend, he told me that the guy must have dumped her so quickly because "she wasn't you"!
When he said this, I looked at him real funny (kinda like this :s :/ ) and thought to myself, what the heck is he talking about. But then he explained...
He said that he has this theory on the reasons people cheat, he didn't call it a justification, he just called it a theory.... it reads as follows,
He said that the reason most people cheat is because they think they are missing something; it may not be a big something, but whatever it is they have built it up in their head enough for them to think that they need it. It may be something physical, it may just be someone who will listen to them, and treat them with respect. Whatever it may be; they decide that the only way for them to get this thing is to look for it outside of their relationship.
Therefore, they find it, and so begins the affair.
Consequently, if and when the GF/BF finds out, and maybe break up with them because of this...the relationship they have created outside of their "real" relationship, usually does not last.
He explained this by saying that ...the reason for this is because the thing that is missing (that caused them to stray), might only be 10%
of what they need, and even though you carry 90%
of everything they want, they still felt like it wasn't enough. And when they lose you, the 90 Percenter
as a result of this 10 Percenter
, and all they have left is this 10 Percenter
, it is not enough to keep them, because this new man/woman only has 10%
of what you like...and that is not enough to base a relationship on.
I thought it was very interesting insight... What do ya'll think, Rockers?