WANT TO ATTRACT? The Secrets Revealed!
Both our ability to live and our style of loving begin to develop from the moment we
were born. Scientists believe that many of the associations we form in infancy
help determine whom we choose as sexual partners or soul mates, and those
patterns, which lay down tendencies for love relations, are etched into our
The sense of smell, for example, has a lot to do with choices we make in
relationships. Each person has a unique odour that is the sum of his or her
glandular secretions. That odour may be attractive to other people because it
reminds them happily of their mothers, for example, or may be off-putting
because it reminds them of a person they disliked such as an ex-spouse.
Associations are linked to smell because the olfactory bulb involved with smell
reception feeds that part of the brain that is linked with emotion and affective
In choosing a partner, highly personal patterns like our individual smell
associations make it difficult to generalize about attraction. Men and women, in
general are attracted to sexual characteristics that separate them, for example,
women's well-shaped breasts and men's broader shoulders. Cultural expectations,
too, have a large role to play. For example, an African man may not find a white
woman desired by a white man particularly attractive or vice versa. Age, social
class, personality and what we want from a particular partner also very much
determines whether or not we find a person attractive.
Many myths exist as to what men and women find attractive in each other. There is no
proof, for example, that men like women with large breasts. And while men think
women like men with large penises, most women mention attributes such as
tenderness, affection, respect, sensuality and kindness as a man's most
attractive qualities. A large penis is not important; in fact penis size is
What women look for in men
The choice of a partner still is determined very much by evolutionary patterns
whereby a woman first looked for mates who could be relied upon. For that
reason, physical appearance appears to be less important to women.Compared
to personal qualities. Women like men's bodies for what they represent -
protection, power or comfort- not as sex objects. Age is not so determining a
factor in a woman's choice of a man. Unlike men who usually look for younger women,
women can be attracted to men of all age groups.
Younger women may like older men and older women may seek younger men. But the
main attractions for a woman can be summarized as follows:
Personality: confidence, assertiveness, independence and dominance are
generally found appealing, as are reliability and faithfulness, and qualities
that suggest warmth, intimacy and attentiveness. Men who try to get on with
women and talk freely and openly about what interests them, and using a soothing
voice, are more successful with women.
Prowess: Men who are successful at work or sports, and have the
visible proofs are more likely to attract women.
Physical qualities:A man who is fit and healthy with a degree of leanness and a
well-muscled body that is not very hairy, and who may have some promising feminine
characters such as a well-shaped nose and eyebrows, is considered more attractive
than a stereotyped muscle man. Women prefer men taller than themselves.
Personal characteristics: A body cleansed of the sweat of the day and free of body odour;
a genital area whose scent is not too pungent; well cared for hands; well-washed feet; and
a clean pair of socks daily; clean hair; a face that is clean shaven or with a shapely beard
and without a rash are what will attract women.
What men look for in women
Men generally place higher premium on physical appearance than women do. In surveys,
physical attractiveness is number one on the list. Women's bodies are often on
display in advertising and magazines and men have been conditioned to find
certain attributes particularly stimulating. Legs, for example, are powerful
attractants because they indicate the state of a woman's maturity; high-heeled
shoes, stockings and skin-tight pants emphasize their allure and reinforce their
A woman's more pronounced female buttocks, narrow waist, bare shoulders and lips
all act as sexual signals, but her breasts are her most obvious turn-on. Men,
however, differ in what exactly they find attractive. Some men even describe
themselves as legs, buttocks, or breast men. By and large, men are attracted to
women younger than themselves. Here is a summary of attributes that men find
attractive in women.
Personality: Traditional traits such as warmth, sympathy, kindness,
gentleness and cheerfulness are often cited as desirable. Erotic ability is more
highly rated than domesticity.
Physical qualities: A degree of leanness but a curvaceous outline rather than
thinness is desired over a more maternal figure. A narrow waist and long legs are
universally admired, but breast size and shape are individual tastes.
Personal Characteristics: A genital area that is not too pungent or whose natural
smell is not masked by a deodorant or other synthetic smell; shapely polishes fingernails
and well-cared for hands; not too much body hair _(a woman's legs are smoother and more
pleasant to touch if hair is removed); clean, soft hair; and clean smelling breath
with no cigarette aroma are what attract men to women.